A Transcendental Practice is a quest for growth; a lifelong “project” to continually rise above yourself, to try to become all that you can be, to personally evolve yourself or, in the words of Abraham Maslow, to “self-actualize” yourself. Questing for the expansion of perception and understanding (transcendence) is hard-wired into humans, is the foundation of happiness and is what separates us from all other animals. You are happiest when you are growing. When you stop growing you start dying
The act of deliberately and methodically trying to transcend your current level of consciousness is a spiritual practice.
The key nuance here is “quest”. It is an action, not a situation or environment. It’s something you actively and purposefully do. You become a seeker. You never really arrive at our destination – it is an ongoing and never-ending trek. It’s like climbing a mountain but never quite reaching the top. It’s the climbing that counts!
The logic goes this way: You are already a Rubberist. This is not something you can or want to change. Being a Rubberist is a significant part of your identity and drives much of what you do in your life. It’s not going to go away. So, you may as well not only celebrate it as who you are but also try to do something positive and constructive with it in pursuit of happiness.
Don’t be confused by the difference between “pleasure” and “happiness”. Pleasure is always sensual in nature and is always short-lived. When the pleasurable moment is done, that is the end of it. Happiness, in contrast, is more of a general attitude of contentment over time. It is much more abstract and long-lived than sensual pleasures. Happiness is the primary measure of the quality of your life. Happiness is what we all want in our lives.
Happiness is directly derived from personal expansion or transcendence. This is the secret of life: you are happiest when you are growing, when you are trying to transcend yourself. “Happiness is activity in pursuit of excellence”. (Aristotle)
To obtain real happiness (beyond mere pleasure) from your fetish you need to transform it into a skill of some kind — something that you can grow with for the rest of your life! This is the essence of a “practice” and what can transform your fetish from the pleasures of feel-good sex that is forgotten shortly after orgasm to something which much more significantly contributes to long-term happiness and contentment in your life. You make the leap from fetish-as-pleasure to the much deeper fetish-as-happiness. Seek out ways to practice your fetish deeper, stronger, more pleasurably and as a source of continual personal growth.
So, what can you do with a fetish that has been foisted on you since birth to transform it into a gateway to personal growth and, thereby, as a path to happiness? Here are a few possible skills that you could develop from it:
- You can learn how to celebrate it by creating a rubber-filled lifestyle as a form of personal art.
- You can learn advanced techniques to “do it” better, longer, deeper and more pleasurably.
- You can learn how to use your fetish as a “gateway” to other levels of consciousness.
- You can teach others how to develop their own transcendental practices.
- You can use the energy of your fetish to drive other paths to personal growth.
- etc., ad infinitum!
What ideas do you have for transforming your rubber fetish into a transcendent practice??
Suggested Reading:
- Flow – the Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihalyhi Csikszentmihalyhi
- Happiness: A History by Darrin M. McMahon ISBN:0871138867
- Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert
- Transcendental Sensuality by Padget, D
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